gf giving mixed signals about sex - /adv/

Anonymous09/06/26, 02:43No.34896677gf giving mixed signals about sex

my gf of 4 years is giving me mixed signals about sex >teases me several times throughout the day >compliments me and flirts with me all the time >says she wants to suck and ride my hog >nothing happens >when I try to make a move, she tells me that we'll have some fun later >when "later" (aka around bedtime) arrives, she usually says something like "we should go to sleep or we'll be tired in the morning, we'll have sex tomorrow or some other time" >sometimes after saying this she still goes to play minecraft or sits on her phone for an hour or two up until a year ago we used to have sex all the time and in all sorts of places, and she was initiating a lot now it's like sex became some sort of afterthought or chore for her, which in itself is not a problem for me because I can just jack off and have my nut for the day, but the constant blueballing is irritating me the pattern I'm seeing is similar to one of my past relationships where my ex got comfortable and bored with our life (I got my own place, my own car, everything is paid off), and didn't see the need to give me any pussy after the novelty wore off (her direct words) is there some sensible way of fixing this problem or should I look for a new gf?

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Anon09/06/26, 02:53No.34896694

You have been together for 4 years, be an adult and talk with her. Now fr, just ask dude, if you really dont want to ask (or feel that you aren't allowed to) then yes you must find another partner

Anon09/06/26, 02:56No.34896701

Does she have adhd and time blindness? She probably doesn't remember wanting or making plans for later and that is why you will continue to be frustrated with her.

Anon09/06/26, 03:08No.34896718

The age old tale of a foid losing interest in having sex with her man. Classic.

Anon09/06/26, 16:18No.34897754

>didn't see the need to give me any pussy after the novelty wore off Are you always doing the same routine in bed? Gotta put in some effort to keep things fresh, stay curious about new ways to fuck and different stuff to try out. Asa guy you can at least get your nut at the end of boring sex, but for women its completely pointless.

Anon09/06/26, 16:24No.34897768

When you talk to her about the problem, what does she say?

Anon09/07/26, 06:12No.34899568

Evict her gaslighting, mooching ass, but be sure to have witnesses, because she WILL go apeshit and try to either have polive unalive you or imprison you out of pure spite. Women who withhold sex are abusive as all Hell and will always gaslight you about it and try to make you feel like shit for refusing to be gaslit. They will always try to paint you as the villain and as a rapist for not being ok with the bullshit they're pulling once they think they have you whipped.

Anon09/07/26, 06:19No.34899576

>suddenly zero sex fora year after 3 years She's fucking someone else, bruh. Hire a private investigator or install home security and make sure to record the entrances especially. Then you can see who she's fucking and confront her with your friends and family present. Never do it alone. She'll call the police and cry abuse like all foids do.

Anon09/07/26, 06:48No.34899616

my (ex?) fiancee started doing this. we've always been 100% open and honest with each other, but i never got a concrete answer as to why it started. we used to have (really good and insane) sex all the timeone time she said it was because she didn't feel confident anymore (she'd gained weight) and the prospect of actually following through with her teasing scared her. sounds believable. another time, though, she shifted the blame onto me and basically said she felt like i wasn't reciprocating her energy. both could be true, or either could be true, i don't know.

Anon09/07/26, 07:01No.34899629

We really just need to have a sticky for this >IF YOUR WIFE/GF HAS STOPPED FUCKING YOU THERE IS NO WAY TO ARGUE HER BACK INTO FUCKING YOU >YES, THIS IS EXTREMELY COMMON. THE NORM. EXPECTED. >YOU HAVE THREE OPTIONS >cheat, jack off more, or leave her and try again with another woman

Anon09/07/26, 07:14No.34899645

Is this what people deal with being in relationships? I'm almost glad that I'm a blackcel coping with a torso sex toy. The way people describe it, it seems almost to be expected your girlfriend will lose interest in fucking with you after a few years. I wonder how many men deal with this but won't say it out loud out of shame. Why are women so flimsy? Why do they change so suddenly and easily? The Coolidge effect is supposedly a male thing but honestly I'm wondering if in humans its actually more pronounced in women and people just haven't cared to research that. But what do I know... I'm just an ignorant virgin Honestly I would rather be a wizard than have to deal with this type of pain. Imagine pair bonding for years with someone, have amazing sex with them just for them to make you feel like an inadequate cuck. And OP if I was in your situation, if I was able to I would cheat 500%. Because at this point she is probably cheating on you or going to. Obviously I wouldn't gave this option which is why I have Tantaly Selena in my closet and 33.5 Fl Oz of water based lube but I also diligently practice noporn. My heart goes out to men in these situations who have CHILDREN with these women

Anon09/07/26, 09:33No.34899841

>>when I try to make a move, she tells me that we'll have some fun later you ever try making a move wearing no clothes with a giant hard on? it is easier to have sex that way. Hope that helps.

Anon09/07/26, 11:40No.34900116

Wife did the exact same thing >Met when she was 22 >lost her v-card to me >Wanted to fuck all the time, like every time we saw each other it was 1-2 times minimum, we never went to bed together without sex >To the point where me, even as someone with a fairly high sex drive, was like "ok lets chill I am exhausted tonight lets fuck in the morning" and she would wake me up at 3am crying that she felt rejected by me because I didn't wanna have sex before going to sleep and I'd have to fuck her at 3am while I'm annoyed and half asleep and she's getting off to how angry I am and she can feel it from the sex>Fast forward 8 years, married and living together >Ask her how often sex is good enough for her, >"At least once a week is fine I think?" >I remind her it is now april and we've had sex twice this year >Almost autistically only wants to have sex last thing before bed, directly after a shower, when SHE wants to go to bed, when I want to have sex is never considered a factor >Try to initiate sex any other time of the day and she is giggly and like "later later!" (Sound familiar?) >Later comes and 90% of the time she is "too tired" from whatever regular stuff she had to do that day, but most of the time perfectly happy to ask me to grope her tits while she has a wank instead, but lets me know that she's "too tired" to help me get off >When I tell her its not enough sex for me, we're both fairly young and fit, we shouldn't be so tired that we cant even have a quicky most nights when we get to bed at a decent time, and not every fuck has to be immediately after a shower, she says "I'm not a sex machine!" >Every time sex is brought up its like its her doing me a favour, like she wants to "give me pleasure" not that she wants it for herself (Perfectly happy to fuck drunk for her own pleasure or have a wank though)So tired of it

Anon09/07/26, 12:06No.34900160

Same thing happened to me around the 2 year mark. She also said that the novelty wore off, only to backtrack and say she was going to put an effort into fixing things. But, exactly like in your case, all that led to her making up a bunch of excuses to postpone sex. She isn't cheating like the other people suggested. I suspected this was case, so I went through her phone (she gave me her password, she knows mine too) and found nothing. And I'm not away from home long enough for the logistics of cheating to work. She just seems to have given up on sex, despite being acting like a nympho during the first few months and basically begging me to fuck her ass and other things like that. I suspect it has something to do with female sexuality and how they are wired. Even if they don't want children, I think they subconsciously lose interest in pair-bonded mates who fail to get them pregnant. It's her lizard brain telling her that her partner is infertile and to stop trying to mate with him. That's my hypothesis anyway.

Anon09/07/26, 13:47No.34900352

It's naturalAs for novelty, mystery, and excitement plan out date nights with that theme and/or learn to get freaky in the bedroom. You don't have go full blown Kink Master cruising all the Swinger Clubs but stuff like roleplay and costuming are pretty vanilla: esp stuff like a RP were she roleplays and dresses up as hooker you just bought showing up to your door. Or even better yet do that RP at hotel room. But there are 1000s of saucy RPs and costuming you can doTell her you've decided you want to spice up your sex life and ask her to come up with 10 sex fantasies she's always wanted to try

Anon09/07/26, 17:12No.34900834

Instead of engaging in sunk cost fallacy, I'd dump her and find another one. It'll hurt for a while but it's not like you're getting your needs met anyway. Romantic passion is like a grapefruit, you squeeze all the juice out of it and you won't get it back.

Anon09/08/26, 04:07No.34902607

You pissed away 4 years of her life without marrying her or giving her children. Of course she would stop seeing you as a viable mate.

Anon09/09/26, 23:30No.34907814

The leading cause of dead bedrooms is marriage. Putting a ring on a woman is a death sentence to a healthy sex life because it signals that you're a doormat and will stay with her no matter what. Take a look at relationships where there's sex all the time - the dude is either unstable or doesn't give a shit about the woman.

Anon09/10/26, 00:49No.34907960

Your mistake was allowing her to live with you. The data is that sex tails off dramatically the moment you allow this to happen.

Anon09/10/26, 01:19No.34908011

god forbid you talk to her.

Anon09/10/26, 03:04No.34908271

Hoping pic is unrelated

Anon09/10/26, 14:19No.34909329

what the fuck do you expect to happen? That she's gonna roll out a red carpet leading directly to her genitals? Do you need a manual air traffic controller with sticks to guide your way in?

Anon09/10/26, 15:03No.34909410

If she's in your house you can fuck her whenever you want.

Anon09/10/26, 15:25No.34909466

I’ve been in a relationship of 5 years and we never got tired of sex. In fact, it kept us closer together. If not for the good sex (yes even 5 years in) we would have broken up earlier.Skill issue OP. Do you tease her? Do you still bother looking attractive to her?

Anon09/10/26, 21:42No.34910253

I'm in a similar position. So sick of being told 'later' every time I initiate, and then her being too tired when the time rolls around.I don't have an answer, and I feel like this advice doesn't help that much. >cheat what's the end outcome here? There are so many ways for this to go badly and fuck up your life, and you're probably not enough of a sneaky sociopathic mastermind to pull off the so-called 'good' outcome where you deceive your gf indefinitely and get all the sex you want. And why would you do that instead of just >leave sure you can just find another gf and arrive at the same problem (situation I'm in), which supposedly is expected because everyone says this is normal, and takes several years to present itself. I mean, suppose you find some turboslut. Won't she just eventually do the same thing, or cheat, or both? How can you tell when deciding whether or not to get into a relationship? Or how to prevent it?alternatively you can just become a perpetual fuckboy and waste your life away scrounging around for pussy like an absolute degenerate. Maybe with enough effort you can get all the sex you want, but the cost will be everything else meaningful about a relationship. >masturbate currently my attempt at coping, and I can tell you for sure that there's a reason we're all looking to solve this issue. You're kidding yourself if you think it's just about the orgasm. Hiding away in the bathroom to go wank after getting turned down is such a shameful state of being, so far I have been unable so separate it from my self esteem. I don't even think I'm bad looking or anything, and I have no idea what I could do to be more appealing.lastly, when people say this is normal, why should that justify it? Look around, everyone's miserable. Don't tell me I should be happy to fit in with all the depressed dudes with oblivious partners

Anon09/10/26, 21:53No.34910274

>dude all women are like this, it's normal >dude just break up with her and find a new girl

Anon09/11/26, 04:01No.34911184

>be married guy >obviously sex once or twice a week max >more than that makes you a sex addict who needs therapy, obviously >blue ballin’ 5-6 days per week. >6x more days than not blue ballin’ >in a relationship >gets to the point where the fat lady who works at the gas station and flirts with you starts to seem kinda hot >tfw

Anon09/11/26, 04:58No.34911273

>and didn't see the need to give me any pussy after the novelty wore off (her direct words) Means she wasn't attracted to you in the first place and you were betabucks. Sorry. Happened to me too.