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Anonymous05/14/26, 17:01No.34531702
How does a man find a woman.
In no way am I going about women should do this and that.
Times have changed, yes but that doesn't mean i compromise on what I want out of a relationship and the same Is true for the woman's perspective.
Then you also have to consider the true pills, that aid one to make data based decisions, that women in general gain more positive attention while an average man has to "earn" it.
Their social media dms are alrwsy filled with guys. On dating sites they're already getting tons of requests, thus she can filter through and select the best of the options in terms of attraction and economic status. Again, not seething, that is the game and its in their benefit, very logically and at the same time emotionally it is beneficial to pick this route.
And then you hear of exceptions where an average looking jobless man, finds a good woman and through their mutual love they push each other and the man does his best to get a job someway or the other and take care of their lives together.
I, as a 25 year old male, don't have a job, so that immediately becomes a no for women. I don't expect anything from dating sites. Where I come from, the girls can get me arrested on false charges of harassment and my life can be ruined because the judicial system is based off of simping, so no cold approach just means jail time and by consequence have led to many good men losing their current jobs and any future job prospects. So even cold approaches are a no go.
And then I've also heard of stories that every one could see it ending in the way it did, with her losing her life and she did, yet these criminals tend to find girlfriends, well they happen to attractive and something about dark psychology that women are attracted to, fair enough I understand that as well.
That leaves me with, where then do I even try?
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Anon05/14/26, 17:07No.34531722
This is the bit where I tell you that a significant portion of women do not engage in hypergamy facilitated by dating apps, and you will find them if your circles overlap by way of shared interests or activities, through which you can develop a relationship naturally.
Then you tell me I'm bluepilled, that's cope, and all women are whores who only want Chad.
I might then try to remind you that your exposure to women through social media creates a pretty extreme selection bias.
Then it's a tossup whether you engage in good faith and exit this thread with a bit of renewed confidence, or double down on your prior assumption.
Which'll it be today, sir?
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Anon05/14/26, 17:16No.34531766
I'm also aware that I'm making a lot of rational considerations while people are moved by irrational actions and though it annoys me, for I want my GBP to be rewarded, is still understandable for fortune favours the bold.
But what though, I'm autistic as fuck, there are those who're experienced either by Birth or through time seemed to have naturally absorbed the code of saying the right things and doing the right things.
And these people do succeed in life and relationships, whereas I'm completely baffled on what to do and what to say, and how to say. Yes it has something to do with my upbringing where my family expects perfection in every aspect of my being and shrieking like a harp at the minute inconvenience or mistake without dust guiding through while they keep making mistakes and make no light of it and will shriek if you do, but since scientifically it is also attributed to genes as well, for my ancestors are known for making dogshit decisions and giving dogshit advice.
So I feel sabotaged somehow. Yes I'm actively trying to change myself, and have had dreams where I'm with my dream woman and when I'm with her I actively strive to be the best version of myself. But I have no girl in real life. And I feel the way I actually am, I would drive her away.
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Anon05/14/26, 18:53No.34532103
Jeet word salad ITT
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Anon05/15/26, 14:33No.34534782
how do people even read all that fml