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Anonymous03/14/26, 13:02No.34339585Afraid of sex
I am petrified of having sex. Absolutely fearful. not sure why either. I was never abused or molested or anything as a kid. I am a guy also I have always felt sort of shameful about the sex fear. Mostly because all my friends are like "YEAH MAN I WENT TO THE BAR AND PLOWED SOME WOMAN AFTER." etc. And that to me sounds terrifying. Having sex with unknown woman sounds terrifying. However, I feel like I am taking crazy pills because so many people seem okay with that. It doesn't help either that I am a bit older(30) and I think women sort of expect men in general to be really experienced in the sex department. Which I am not. What can I do to get over my fear? I think my fear is a combo of many things.
>1. Being naked
I hate being naked. I am only ever naked when taking a shower. I don't think I look awful but I think I am the opposite of a nudist. A clothist? I strongly prefer to have my clothes on pretty much always. I feel like some people(mostly women I've noticed) are basically dying for moments to take their clothes off! When I found out a lot of people actually sleep naked, that freaked me out too.
>2. Worry about relationship dynamics after having sex.
I am a bit of a solitary person and I definitely need my personal space. I don't like someone being near me all the time. So if I did have sex, I would feel a need to not be around that person after probably. At least temporarily. That is strange right?
>3. Performance
Unfortunately I am a porn abuser and I think I'd perform poorly with sex. I don't know what to expect and I SERIOUSLY doubt any woman would be patient enough with me. I don't understand how anyone does this.
>4. Afraid of disease and pregnancy
I am actually terrified of any diseases a woman might have or getting her pregnant. I know protection exists but I hear condoms make sex even harder. So now I don't know what to expect.
Not sure how to solve any of this.
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Anon03/14/26, 13:15No.34339619
I could say it's fine to doubt and be insecure but I won't. Those are insecurities you'd normally see on a teenager, by 30 you should at least be approaching the point where you don't give much of a fuck anymore.
>Being naked
It's fine to not like being naked. But being without clothes around other guys in the showers is totally different than being intimate with someone.
>Worry about relationship dynamics after having sex. That is strange right?
Yeah, that is strange. If you want sex and you don't want be around people maybe you should jerk off and move on with your life. It feels like "I want to go to the pool, but I don't want to get." It's very frustrating.
>Performance
Yeah, everyone feels like that. Eat the girl for a good 10 minutes before starting penetration. Don't feel afraid of not being perfect at first, no one is, and you can't get better without practicing it.
>Afraid of disease and pregnancy.
Never ever have casual sex. Only have sex with a woman you are willing to date/marry/impregnate. Never have casual sex.
>Condoms are complicated
Now it seems like you are just coming up with excuses.
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Anon03/14/26, 13:15No.34339621
a lot of people are exactly like you. they prefer being clothed, dislike sex with strangers, and worry about their ability to be or remain attractive to a partner.if hooking up with sluts is really is that important then get out of your own head, stop caring about yuor imaginary reputation and get some pussy. if it isn't important to you, then don't worry about what your friends do or claim to do. that's them fooling around, not you, and plenty of people think about sex the same way as you.
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Anon03/14/26, 14:03No.34339724
Honestly, sex and physical stuff like making out looks very unappealing and scary. How do people do it without being grossed out?
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Anon03/14/26, 14:17No.34339746
Yeah i'm afraid too, but at the same time i want some bitch to fuck every day.
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Anon03/14/26, 15:58No.34339901
Just hook up with a few women and you will get over all of this.
When I was 18 and had just started uni, a girl at a party literally asked me if I wanted to fuck - I said no because I was a virgin and was nervous as fuck. By the time I was 20, I had slept with half a dozen different women and I got over this retarded fear.
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Anon03/14/26, 16:14No.34339966
>how to solve any of this
stop being gay.
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Anon03/14/26, 16:15No.34339969
>I am petrified of having sex.
Then don't. Problem solved.
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Anon03/14/26, 21:45No.34340864
Related to the post: how do I get strong erections?I love my girl and I get very aroused but when the time to put the condom on comes, the erection deflates. Any tips on how to maintain it? I am trying to reduce my performance anxiety but it seriously sucksP.S.: Also though about buying bigger condoms since I have a relatively girthy dick (5.3''/13,5cm circumference) but I already use the XL (60mm diameter) and so perhaps it could be too overkill?
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Anon03/15/26, 03:58No.34341807
Yeah sure but if you wanna procreate naturally you have to get over it
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Anon03/15/26, 11:17No.34342337
You're right to be afraid. They have teeth down there, you know.