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Anonymous03/14/26, 03:11No.34338532I stopped being a people pleaser but now everyone at work hates me
After trying really hard to get people to like me. Really practicing empathy and listening and validating people's emotions, I just stopped giving a shit because people just walked all over me and I was constantly feeling overwhelmed due to me being introverted and showing emotions was difficult. I stopped caring and am now blunt and straight forward and just try and avoid people. But now people have reacted really poorly to that and really dislike me for some reason. Unfortunately one of those people are my manager, so now I'm forced to look for a job elsewhere. What can I do to make things go smoothly avoid drama, and make people leave me alone?
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Anon03/14/26, 03:38No.34338595
you already created the impression that you're a pushover, so it was too late.
also, i think people can tell when you're bitter about them being retarded, and they don't like it, so while it's fine to be blunt, try to remain cordial enough too.
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Anon03/14/26, 05:13No.34338809
You might have gone to the other extreme and people see you as uncooperative and individualistic, or maybe people already saw you as their useful idiot.
I'm any case, I think you should definitely look for another job because once people expect something from you and they used to get it but don't do it anymore, you are fucked.
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Anon03/14/26, 05:28No.34338849
ur cat is cute
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Anon03/14/26, 05:30No.34338855
Is that your cat
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Anon03/14/26, 05:39No.34338884
dont answer him he sounds like a molester
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Anon03/14/26, 14:14No.34339739
The change was the issue.
You created the expectation for one type of behavior so now that you're not doing it people think you're being a dick for no reason.
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Anon03/14/26, 14:18No.34339749
OP I had the same problem. Had a lot of stress at home and said a few things - people get really ass blasted over the smallest stuff. If they can relate to something you say, they take it personal. Most people are fake, especially co-workers. They are not real friends. Put on the corporate mask (the persona), stop caring so much. Keep quiet - don't speak up if they are doing something stupid. Let it fail. Politeness is not kindness, most are monsters - the awful things they tell me about what they think really disturbs me sometimes, wicked stuff I wouldn't think of in a million years they think constantly about others. It really shattered my opinion of people, especially the passive aggressive ones on the west coast. At least east coasters are direct.
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Anon03/14/26, 16:25No.34340003
>I started being rude to people.
>Mysteriously, they got offended.
Yeah, okay. You can be assertive without being aggressive or rude. Learn how.For example, if someone asks you for help and you're too busy, just say so, but say it politely. Eye contact, friendly smile, confident voice: "Ah! No, I'm sorry, I'm rushed off my feet today! Maybe you could ask Jeff?" It's really not difficult.
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Anon03/14/26, 16:28No.34340013
if the world hates you, it means you're on The Path.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ
