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Anonymous03/12/26, 21:36No.34334374Finally got a gf BUT
I want to go back. To my old life. I find this whole thing extremely tiring, mentally and emotionally. I crave solitude and she just won't let me be by myself. I tried talking to her and explaining that I want to be alone sometimes and not have to respond to her texts every 5 minutes. Doesn't matter, she just gets angry at me.
Worst is that she's obsessed with me (for some reason) and keeps talking about getting married.
How do I get out of this? I don't really know what to tell her, I don't have a reason to dump her other than the fact that I enjoy being a weird recluse and that i'd rather work on my hobbies. I'm honestly considering throwing my phone into a lake and driving far, far away.
I know many of you are desperate for a relationship of any kind. I don't care. It was nice for a bit, but the novelty wore off. I don't want to be this chick's slave and emotional tampoon anymore.
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Anon03/12/26, 21:38No.34334381
Idk, you could ask ChatGPT to write you a breakup script. But you seem kind of retarded too because you can just ignore her if she annoys you.
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Anon03/12/26, 21:40No.34334393
How long have you been together? Is this your first girlfriend?It's not complicated at all, if you don't like how it's going then talk about it (which you did)
If things don't get better, than tell her you want to leave and why. Listen to what she says and make a decision off of that.You sound like a bastard, a sad lonely bastard.
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Anon03/12/26, 23:23No.34334652
you need to figure out how to establish boundaries with her. this being your first gf, you're just discovering what amount of attention you are capable of providing, so it might take a bit more learning.for example, if she "needs" to see you every day but you need a day or two just to yourself, you need to communicate that to her clearly. if she doesn't like it and demands you compromise on this (or worse, starts using emotional manipulation like questioning whether you really love her or w/e), consider how that effects you long term. do you want to constantly be crumbling to this person's whims?im one of those never-gf-havers, but ive also been around plenty of friends to see and hear their problems. one of my close friends is currently going to couples counselling with his gf of 5 years. like you, he regularly laments feeling stifled and unfulfilled in life because of how emotionally demanding she is and how unstable she gets when he expresses wanting to spend more time alone or feeling more independent.this is the type of problem that leaves you in a miserable relationship (and eventually marriage if you bow to her pressure) tending to an emotionally immature person while resenting every minute of it.
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Anon03/12/26, 23:59No.34334729
Nice larp
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Anon03/13/26, 00:02No.34334734
Don't get a clingy one next time.
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Anon03/13/26, 00:02No.34334737
>I find this whole thing extremely tiring, mentally and emotionally.
sounds like you have a girlfriend alright
happy now, bitch?
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Anon03/13/26, 19:21No.34337318
My life is an endless cycle of going back and forth between being single and longing for a gf and getting a gf and finding her annoying and wishing I could go back to my gymcel lifestyle
I think if I could reliably find casual hookups I may feel differently but usually with those I end up pursuing a relationship with them
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Anon03/13/26, 22:26No.34337861
unforced error
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Anon03/13/26, 22:37No.34337898
Just tell her she's smothering you
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Anon03/14/26, 02:48No.34338478
subtle demotivational thread #553312334
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Anon03/14/26, 07:25No.34339073
Yeah but men arent better especially ones like op
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Anon03/14/26, 08:44No.34339170
this is why old guys go fishing or golfing so much
just to get away from the bitch wife