Basically I asked a friend to be my bf and got rejected.
We're still friends which I'm really glad for, but for some reason I'm just failing to move on. I'm basically stalking him at this point and he tells me to stop simping for my own good but doesn't seem too peturbed about it. I feel like I'm the only one who even compliments him most of the time and if I stopped he'd just go back to being insecure and I'd be sad.
He said he doesn't have the time for the kind of commitment involved in dating which seemed like he was just being polite/his usual people pleaser self cause he's currently unemployed and talks to me daily anyways, sometimes for hours on end.
The issue is he's had a lot of trauma due to insane women in the past that kind of made him fear connection despite craving it so much. He's really sweet to me and I'm the first he turns to if he's suffering or being bullied which I'm really grateful for. If anything I'm glad I confessed cause he's convinced no one would ever want him and I proved him wrong for what it's worth.
So until I find out whether he just dislikes me personally or is just pushing me away cause he got burned before I can't really get it through my thick skull that no doesn't mean maybe one day, hence I need an outside perspective to look at this more clearly.
Do I have any chances of getting out the friendzone and if not how do I help him see his own value so he doesn't end up alone forever?