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Anonymous01/28/26, 04:13No.34204538Should I go on a date with a customer?
I'm a woman in a customer-facing job. For the past 5 months, I've had a male regular who I see 1 to 3 times a week who I can tell is interested in me, but he has never made his interest explicit. He's very timid and somewhat awkward. He mostly asks me about my plans for that week, and tells me his own, in a way that I can tell that he's giving me the opportunity to signal if I want to do something together.
This would be a critical time to say that 1.) I don't know my sexual orientation with any certainty, 2.) if I had to put money on anything I would guess that I am a lesbian (with a low sex drive, an extremely avoidant attachment style that is maybe even insecure-avoidant, and experiencing compulsory heterosexuality), and 3.) despite being in my late 20s, I have never had sex, which is mostly explained by my aforementioned low sex drive and reclusiveness. This is 100% real, unfortunately.
Having said that, I have always been curious about receiving oral sex from a man (and to a lesser extent, having a man get me off with his hands). The shitty thing about that though is that I've never been interested in any other kind of sexual activity with a man, so I'd be incompatible with >99% of straight men who have a very reasonable desire to be satisfied too. And I also kind of fear I only THINK I want this, and the closer it got to being real, the less I'd want it.... I'm also very much aware that I'm getting older. My sexual prospects are slowly waning. And secondly, I need to exercise more control over my life, I have wasted so much time already. It's a major flaw of mine that I live so passively. So maybe I should lean into my relative youth while I still have it.
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Anon01/28/26, 04:15No.34204541
2/2Back to my male regular. He's very nice, has some common interests, same age group, and decently good-looking (I'm not attracted to him, but I'm far from put off). I have considered several times before if I would be open to letting him go down on me (provided he wanted that too) and I think the answer could be yes, but I would have to get to know him better. Best case scenario, for me, I think is that it happens and we're both on board with a FWB-type relationship that, while recognizing my physical and emotional limitations as a romantic/sexual partner, is affectionate nonetheless until one of us moves on.Sorry for rambling so much. Basically what I'm asking is should I start responding more positively to him putting out the feelers for a date and let one happen, or keep to myself politely like I've been doing?I think if we did go on a date, and we both had a good time, I would then try to be candid and tell him what I am looking for like I said here, and leave the ball in his court to decide if he wants to proceed or not. But then there's the issue of having to look him in the eye at work afterwards if he isn't interested. "Don't shit where you eat," ya know.... Anyway, hopefully some outside perspectives will help me think more clearly. Thanks everyone.
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Anon01/28/26, 04:22No.34204554
you sure look like fecal matter to me you dumbfucki hate youdiafwtfyou ruined my life, a transsexual id at label harassment to your libelFUCK I HATE YOUyou're an ultra nightmare to deal with, you painful mocking eyesore of a braindead smoke drifter realistic zombie dumb ass bimbo
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Anon01/28/26, 04:26No.34204559
"I'm a lesbian!"
"Maybe I'll have casual sex with a random dude"attention
whore
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Anon01/28/26, 04:36No.34204595
>top-to-bottom retardation
good lord, the internet did a number on you huhstop watching porn or reading smut
tell the guy you're new to all this but would like to get a meal together
and then, since you're a sperg, just blurt out that you're a virgin but you'd like to try kissing and cuddling
private parts can wait until at least the second date
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Anon01/28/26, 04:55No.34204666
Tldr n why the fuck is sexual orientation even a thing, sexuality, whatever. You either have the ability to have sex, or you don't. Full fucking stop. Whatever the fuck you're "attracted" to is all just smokes and mirrors. If you physically cannot get it up for anything but horses then I guess damn you're horse-sexual and there's absolutely nothing we can do about it, maybe Viagra will work though. Time to get into a "relationship" with a horseFuck sexuality and making entire identities out of them. You either reproduce or you don't. Whatever you're attracted to is prone to manipulation and usually just deviant fetish shit anyway rather than a "sexuality". It's all just leisure built upon more leisure. If you have the ability to have sex with a thing, you're sexually functioning. If you don't, you're sexually dysfunctional.Sexual "orientation" is a meme. A "gay" man can probably have sex with a woman. Why do they insist on staying "gay"? Because of "culture". They want to LARP some sort of cultural hallucination.Then there's pansexual and demisexual and etc. the truth is, we probably have the ability to have sex with anything, and the "sex function" only turns off at really extreme ends/cases. But preferentially, we'll choose "something" just because of whatever oddly specific reasons we've been conditioned into.Sex is for reproduction. "Sexuality", "sexual orientation", none of this shit is even relevant to reproduction. At most, if your sexuality makes it so you can't reproduce using sex, now you have to use IVF or other reproductive technologies to reproduce, increasing costs. CoolEnd brain dump
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Anon01/28/26, 05:31No.34204761
>This would be a critical time to say that 1.) I don't know my sexual orientation with any certainty, 2.) if I had to put money on anything I would guess that I am a lesbian
You should probably leave him be, then. It wouldn't be fair otherwise.
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Anon01/28/26, 06:05No.34204850
My hunch is people with low sex drive are just unhealthy in some way and if they fix it their sex drive will just be normal
It seems way more common for women to have this issue which makes me think this is something that can definitely be figured out
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Anon01/28/26, 11:20No.34205444
Bumping before I'm away from the internet for awhile, but I have something to add before I go.I realized that I never even really considered that there's no guarantee that someone who gives oral sex will also be good at it. I guess I'm really fucking naive. Go figure. The qualities on display as I imagine it, the men who give have drive, they're enjoying themselves, they're "in the moment" instead of being "stuck in their heads", they're self-assured and take pride in their prowess. This is probably harsh and invasive to say or think about, but when I think of it that way, I'm really skeptical that he has that energy in him, which makes me want to maintain my distance to save myself the time and regret and embarrassment. But I'm repressed and guarded as hell myself, so maybe I shouldn't scorn my own.
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Anon01/28/26, 13:22No.34205607
>im a lesbian
>i want a man to suck my flaps
these men hating dick loving larpers oh my days, many such cases
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Anon01/28/26, 13:24No.34205611
you're horny, he's too much of a pussy to ask you out. YOU make the first move, if a man denies sucking a girls pussy hes 99% a fag.