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Anonymous01/27/26, 08:43No.34202048How do I find myself?
23F with one last year of grad school.
I was engaged to my partner of 4 years but he and I decided to separate because I have been extremely unstable for the last several months and he finally couldn't take it anymore. We are going to go our separate ways until I can get the help I need and be a better partner. He is also my best friend and has been telling me for a while I need to explore therapy. Recently I started taking Adderall to help with ADHD and it has really made me more emotional than ever. I have crying fits regularly. I recognize there is a serious problem. But not just one.
I don't know who I am outside of being with him or in relation to him. I don't know who I am and this pause is supposed to be how I can be apart from him and figure out who I am as a person without him. I struggle with anxiety and have been getting out more in the last few months but I still don't know how to find myself or who I am.
Can anyone give me advice on how to find yourself?
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Anon01/27/26, 09:49No.34202116
>ADHD
caused by parasites and toxins
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Anon01/27/26, 10:11No.34202132
>how to find yourself?
just happens
narcotics can be an excellent way to hide from yourself
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Anon01/27/26, 11:13No.34202185
>How do I find myself?
Where did you leave yourself?
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Anon01/27/26, 18:51No.34203131
ok you have BPD
NEXT
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Anon01/27/26, 19:24No.34203208
>partner
gay or Bong (same thing)
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Anon01/27/26, 23:24No.34203774
>Recently I started taking Adderall to help with ADHD and it has really made me more emotional than ever. I have crying fits regularly.
If you actually have ADHD then Adderall should calm you down. Are you sure about the diagnosis?
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Anon01/27/26, 23:25No.34203780
>Recently I started taking Adderall to help with ADHD and it has really made me more emotional than ever
Adderall made me absolutely nuts as a kid. Switch to something else.
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Anon01/27/26, 23:28No.34203788
>Can anyone give me advice on how to find yourself?
It comes down to trying lots of different activities and experiences, and seeing how they make you feel.
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Anon01/28/26, 13:21No.34205602
Shit OP this hits hard. I'm in w similar boat but I'll give this my best shot.
First, I think ultimately you have a poor diet and should look into changing it (Try moderate keto w high protein. Ben Greenfield is a great source) I know that sounds basic but I struggle to be "balanced" in life emotionally due to also being bullied / taken advantage of throughout life and my diet is the one thing that whenever I stick to it, it helps a fuck ton.
Second, I've come to realize that there's a balance when trying to find "you". I've learned to be more comfortable w my own interests and find some people who fw the same shit I do, but also go w the flow of trends to a lesser extent and keep up w society. It's okay to force yourself to take up other interests for the sake of making conversation / relation to others; just as long as your interests come first as people smell a pure kiss ass vs someone who just wants to share a mainstream interest.
Third, I don't think anyone has a clear definition of self because we're always changing. Not only that but the idea of an "I" is strange. You could define yourself by your interests, your physical being, your mental / spiritual being but ultimately you'll never be a concrete "thing" and that's okay. Nothing and no one really is the deeper you look at it. Just stick w what makes you feel good and learn that it's turtles all the way down for most shit. Know when to stop asking and when to start doing even if the itch of having all the answers isn't satisfied, it never can be.