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Anonymous12/02/25, 23:35No.34005737
>two years ago, am invited to an online lady friends wedding. we were close when i was a teenager but drifted apart as time went on. she left our group and found a husband. i have always enjoyed talking with her and hanging out with her playing games and watching films.
>in the flesh she is a stunner. she knocks me off my feet as i see her walk down the aisle. i get to know her husband and find that he has the markings of instability and insecurity, which fits with what my online friend told me leading up to the wedding. my other online friends there with me all agree that their marriage is not likely to last long term. i agree. but i shove my feelings down because it's inappropriate to speculate in such a manner, and who knows, we could be wrong. but i leave that weekend of watching her marry this man knowing for sure that i am attracted to her in a way i didn't expect.
>fast forward to this year. me and another online friend meet up with her again for an event. yet again i find that my heart jumps immediately. she is extremely happy to see us, all smiles, full enthusiasm. she tells us of how her relationship has gone, more or less as expected. the husband has beat her on occasion. he has lapsed into alcoholism. she does not love him. her lack of desire for her husband has her wondering if she's asexual. it's at this point that i confess my desire for her, saying that i know it's out of pocket, it's inappropriate for me to chase after a married woman, but i want her and i can't deny that i do. she dons a great big smile. she says "i find myself interested when other people express interest in me." this is a red flag, but i disregard. i ask if she is attracted to me, she says she could be. during the remainder of the weekend we fool around. first base. handholding. constant flirtation. by the end she seems thoroughly smitten with me, squeezing my thigh repeatedly during dinner. a great experience. the other friend i'm with feels annoyed, but gets over it.
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Anon12/02/25, 23:54No.34005865
>in the aftermath of the meetup i am talking with her constantly, trying to sniff out if she is maybe interested in partnering with me/living with me. she is saying that she shouldn'tve engaged with me in that way. it was wrong. despite against her morals. in the moment she was weak, it was about the context leading up to the visit, where the insecure husband is berating her constantly about hanging out with *two men* when she's married, and this repeated badgering had her in such a mood where she was vulnerable to that kind of move. it turns out his paranoia was reasonable, as i am certainly the type of man to disrespect other people's relationships. i don't care. i will bulldoze through the other party.
>anyway i badger her over instant messaging about where her feelings are for me. do they exist? are they strong? it's here that she reveals a series of complications. one, she doesn't know how to feel love. two, she's been in a relationship ever since she was an adolescent... always jumping from guy to guy, never being with a guy for long. and three. she never had sex until her current husband. she has never been an overtly sexual being, as far as she can remember she's never desired sex. she's not *good* at romance. but she repeatedly says that she *wants* to fall in love, wants to have an enjoyable romantic life, but she is not sure she is capable of this, or perhaps she doesn't know how to *be* in order to feel this way. before her marriage she had a shitload of trepidation, a shitload of "i don't think this is going to be so good", but she went along with it anyway... because she has a history of not having strong feelings herself romantically, but being in relationships with people who do have strong feelings, with people who make the decisions for her. she talks about physical intimacy with prior boyfriends feeling forced. like she would rather not do so, but feels she must because she doesn't want to lose the relationship. she is not a very physical person.
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Anon12/02/25, 23:58No.34005884
>be op
>want to write a 4chan story
>do the green > arrow
>write a fucking book
>only use > per 300 words
>mfw
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Anon12/03/25, 00:00No.34005893
>throughout the months between now and then i continue to hang out with her and talk about my feelings for her, ask her if she feels the same way or thinks she *could* feel the same way. she says on occasion that she thinks things would be different if we lived physically close together. this hatches an obvious idea in my mind: what if i moved towards where she lives? regardless, no matter how many times
>yesterday, i receive a notice from my current apartment: if i sign a lease soon, i get 12 months with no rent increase. this is a good deal. but it also makes me think: do i really want to be here for another 12 months? what do i really want? i want her. i want to live with her.
>so i arrange a call with her. we talk during her lunch hour. she confesses to me that her life in her current city is quite fine - she likes her job, she likes her friend group, she likes her hobby activities. what she doesn't love is coming home to a man who is aggressive and hateful of her. in the back of my mind, i think this of course makes sense; the man married a woman incapable of love, seemingly. i provide my offer: what if you could keep everything you like, but instead you live with me? and i wouldn't pressure you unduly for physical intimacy. it would be on your terms. is that desirable?
>she considers this for a moment. she says it's utterly insane and dangerous for both her and me to go through with this, as her husband is manic and has a gun and has threatened suicide for himself or murder on her before. she also thinks it's retarded to move from one place to another to chase another person's affection. but. there is a small part of her that likes the idea. she wants to divorce him. she is ready to move on, if only the opportunity to do so existed. yet she thinks to even consider this at this moment is tantamount to cheating. any engagement with me on this topic is cheating. that's true! but clearly i don't care. and she doesn't either.
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Anon12/03/25, 00:01No.34005898
She doesn't "need" you, she needs therapy
I'm sure if she leaves her husband and gets in a relationship with you, the first few months will be great, but soon after the obvious cracks will show
She's extremely mentally ill and you are just an obsessive narcissistic dickhead
Your arguments will be awful and I can see both of you blowing up over the smallest things
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Anon12/03/25, 00:47No.34006052
Jesus Christ at least capitalise your sentences if you're gonna write a fucking book series m9Tldr but I'll read it later out of curiosity cuz you're clearly beyond infatuated with some extremely stupid shit and I wanna see just how fucking stupid this gonna get
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Anon12/03/25, 04:51No.34006923
You remind me of me with the amount you type and reflect and how honest you are, people on 4chan can't take it hahaTo address the actual write up, I'm going to approach this at the highest of levels because, understandably, I've got a 2k character limit here.To break this down to the simplest elements - you're admittedly extremely desperate for this woman and smitten with her to the point where you're willing to make a grand mistake and pursue this thread of your life for the next however many months it takes until you learn valuable lessons. You know there's no long term happiness to be gained by chasing her and being with her, yet you are willing to do all of this just to be with her. You have the highest level of desperation at the moment because you're actually going to turn your life upside down for a chance at having her for a bit.I can't stop you, no one can, so I'll share a small experience - I did the same and decided to chase a girl to the very end with the determination of a god that I have, results were that I lost 2.5 months of my life, feels like I aged a whole year and suffered so much heartache and stress during that time, got to get my face sat on and ate the best pussy and asshole of my life for that time and I still masturbate to all the memories. I also lost my self dignity completely, until I broke up with her when I found out she's cheating on me online the entire time.You stand to lose - time. Mental well being.
You stand to gain - some of the best nuts you've ever nutted in your life.Had I known what I know now, I would have chosen to prioritize myself and choose me. Through that, a sustainable and real girl will come, and that will feel so much better than the highs and lows I had with this chick.
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Anon12/03/25, 17:58No.34008774
Its completely insane to move to another city for a girl that doesnt seem to even like you
You are one mental mf